Creating Original Humour, Lesson Seven, Lateral Thinking

Creating Original Humour for your Wedding Speeches, Lesson Seven, Lateral Thinking

Hi folks. We're going to investigate lateral thinking as a way of inventing humour when writing or adapting your wedding speech.

The term "lateral thinking" was coined in the seventies by Edward de Bono. He wrote a lot of books on creative thinking and devised a great many tools to help generate original thought. One of these was the simple trick of looking at "opposites", and it is this which I am going to share with you in this article.

It is well worth remembering not just for creating humour but for any situation where you require original thinking, eg problem solving, coming up with an invention, a business idea or lyrics for a song. I have used it for all of these purposes.

So much for the preamble - let's get down to the nitty gritty. Let's start the process of generating humour ideas using lateral thinking - thinking "sideways" rather than the usual and obvious frontal assault.

STEP 1 Choose a subject. I recommend that you work through these steps for each main subject in your speech. I' m going to illustrate the method using the theme of football - but you can use any theme at all.

STEP 2 Brainstorm everything that you know about the subject:

FOOTBALL:ball, round, leather, premier league, 3 other leagues, goalkeeper, tall first half, grass, stadium ,supporters, boots, studs, cup.

Obviously there is a lot more that you could put down here, but I think that' s probably enough for illustrative purposes.

STEP 3
ball
round ..... ..... ..... ..... ..... square
leather ..... ..... ..... ..... ..... made of soap => imperial leather
premier league ..... ..... ..... ..... ..... bottom league
3 other leagues ..... ..... ..... ..... ..... 20,000 leagues

goalkeeper
tall ..... ..... ..... ..... ..... short goalie
first half ..... ..... ..... ..... ..... five pints
grass ..... ..... ..... ..... ..... astroturf
stadium ..... ..... ..... ..... ..... amphitheatre
supporters ..... ..... ..... ..... ..... under-miners
boots ..... ..... ..... ..... ..... wellies, flippers
studs ..... ..... ..... ..... ..... stilts
cup ..... ..... ..... ..... ..... saucer

STEP 4 Look at the opposites with an open mind for germs of humour - explore the possibilities:

Square ball: at least it wouldn' t move when you were taking a penalty.

Ball made of soap: in rain it would produce suds and get steadily smaller 20,000 leagues under the sea: underwater football - I' m sure we' ve all seen many a game played under slanting rain.

Short goalie: how about Ronnie Corbett?

First half: pint, cocktail, short Astroturf: Do you prefer grass or Astroturf? I don' t know, I' ve never smoked Astroturf (with due credit to John Sullivan)

Amphitheatre: Throw the players to the lions? Sometimes they deserve it .

Underminers: a race of goblins burrowing under the ground sowing discontent.Wellies, flippers: ideal wear for underwater football Stilts instead of studs: useful to make Ronnie tall enough to be an ace keeper Saucer: Where do you find a cup and saucer? In a canteen

STEP 5 Now we need to turn as many of these ideas into jokes as possible.

A lot of them have humour in them but are difficult to create a punchline for, eg the underminers, the soap-ball etc.

This is just the way it goes - you have to churn out a lot of ideas to get the few that will work. Incidentally, Eddie Izzard generally creates two hours of guff in order to find two minutes worth of useful material.

But I urge you to persist - your wedding speech can benefit immensely from that two minutes.

Bearing in mind the advice given earlier in my columns about humour which is NOT appripriate on the wedding day, we can now attempt to create jokes.

From the above, in addition to the Only Fools... joke, two possibles stand out for me (you might see others): " first half" and " saucer" .

What can we make of these? I like:
He' s still interested in football, but he gets tired after the first half, so he goes on shorts instead.

As for "saucer" and "canteen," how about this: There was a fire at the ground. The manager panicked. "The cup, the cup!" he cried."Don't worry", said the fire-chief, " it didn't even get as far as the canteen."

I hope that you can see the potential of this way of thinking, tying it in with the joke creation methods outlined earlier, and I hope you manage to use it to great effect on the big day.

Good luck!

Bruno Barton :)

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Creating Original Humour, Lesson Four, Using History

Creating Original Humour for your Wedding Speeches, Lesson Four, Using History


This article deals with the use of information from history to make your wedding speech humorous in a way that is linked to the people at the wedding. This can add variety and interest making your speech special.

For the effective use of history in a speech you need a source of historical facts, arranged by date of the year. This enables you to derive speech enhancing observations and humour relating to, for example, the date of the wedding or the Groom's or the Bride's birth date.

Finding historical informationFortunately there are several such sources available on the internet.

The easiest way to find one that you like is to go to a search engine and search for keywords such as:-

"Any day in history" "today in history" "on this day". These links will take you to the appropriate google results page :).

The one which I prefer is Any-day in History, available at Scopesys. I found everything that I wanted to help writing my speeches, and it was easy to use.

If you want to use this service you will have to use the link above or type in "www.scopesys.com/anyday" in full in your internet browser, because there is (currently) no link from the home page to the anyday in history page where you can select the relevant.

The rest of this article will describe the principles of using historic information, but the example methods refer to scopesys.com.

You can apply the principles using a historical source of your choice.

Simply plug in any date and three sets of information appear:
first a list of people throughout history who share that birth date, next a list of people who have died on that date (I suggest NOT using this list for wedding humour) and finally a list of historical events which have happened on that date.

Identifying useful historic material. What we are looking for is any historical information which can be related in some way to the people involved in the wedding, particularly the Bride and Groom.

For instance:-
Things that echo one or the other of their personal characteristics or interests, items which are similar to them in some way or which maybe are even totally opposite to them, or perhaps something that inadvertently speaks about marriage in a way which is interesting or amusing.

Examples - using history for humourLet's plug in my birthday (11th April) and see what we can make of it all.

[1]Scanning through the birthday sharers, we see that I share my birthday with two great cricketers, Arthur Shrewsbury, who dominated English batting in the late 19th century, and Everton Mattis, a West Indies batsman in the 80's.

Clearly with such a pedigree of cricketing excellence born on that day, how could I be anything other than a world class Test cricketer?

Unfortunately I can hardly lift the bat and have been out for a duck more times than I care to mention, So in this case I can't easily draw a comparison between myself and cricketeers from history.

If I really want to include 'cricket' in my speech (perhaps because all other members of my family are keen cricketeers) I might claim that I would be as good at cricket as the rest of the family if only Nature had not gone awry given and my share of cricketing talent to these other world class cricketeers who shared my birthday.

[2]However I can draw some comfort from another two of the birthday sharers:
Nick La Rocca, a jazz composer who wrote the classic jazz tune Tiger Rag and the pop star Lisa Stansfield were born on the same date too, which clearly means that it can only be a matter of time before I and my rock band "Rancid Rabbit" make history and reach number one in the pop charts.

There is an element of truth in this: I do write pop songs and have thought of setting up a spoof band called Rancid Rabbit, but whether it'll ever happen or not I don't know.

Nevertheless, the fact that they do songs and I do songs makes the comparison relevant. Not only were we born on the same day but we are all in the same business, without doubt we are destined for the same greatness!

You don't have doubts do you? I am being flattered by the comparison.

This approach can be a nice touch for the happy couple on their wedding day.The closer I can compare the historical information to the wedding the better the impression and the more successful the humour. But please note that in the world of creative humour, even for weddings, you are allowed to stretch the truth for comic effect. As long as you don't tell a string of outright lies, no-one will mind.

[3]Looking through history for events on 11th April and relating them to a wedding on this day, I see that it is the anniversary of Napoleon's first abdication.

Never mind what the groom's real attitude to marriage has been in previous years, you can still boldly proclaim that ....

"Clearly after half a lifetime of dedicated bachelorhood, the Groom has taken a leaf out of Napoleon's book and handed over control to someone else".

Of course if the groom has really been known as a sceptic about marriage you might build in how heartened you are to see such a profound conversion in his attitudes, and charmed you are to see how eagerly he has approached his own wedding.

[4]I also notice from history, that in 1960 on this day the first weather satellite was launched, and in 1984 the crew of the Space Shuttle Challenger carried out the first in-space satellite repair.

So for the speech I can say "Looking out of the window at the weather now I think we can say it wasn't the weather satellite that they repaired!"

Obviously this only works if it is raining. If it is sunny we could say: Thank goodness they fixed it!

You may find useful comic historical snippets which you would like to use but which apply to a non-relevant date. Feel free to use them anyway. It is highly unlikely that anyone will realise, and even more unlikely that they will challenge you.

Even if they do just claim artistic licence. Alternatively if it really bothers you, just find some other historical facts and use them in conjunction with another relevant day. There is plenty of material out there!

I hope you can see my drift on this one. Given a fairly open and lateral approach to the people and events in these two listings of events from history, you should be able to find some very good wedding speech enhancing material.

Bruno Barton


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Creating Original Humour Lesson Two- Puns

Creating Original Humour for your wedding speeches Lesson Two

This month I'm going to start my series of blogs on joke making. On our web site you will be able to download a speech package to suit you; with the methods that I will teach you, you will be able to personalise your wedding speech with original wit appropriate to the Bride and Groom.

This month I take a look at creating puns, i.e. jokes based on double meanings. A vast percentage of all jokes fall into this category. The first step in writing a joke using a pun is to think of a word with more than one meaning.

For your wedding speech I recommend going several steps beyond that:-

Write down all the subjects and themes you can think of about
the Bride and Groom their shared interests their separate interests their history together etc. and brainstorm every single word and phrase that comes to
mind, whether it has an obvious double meaning or not, write
these down.

Then study these words for possbile puns.. Craft these into appropriate sentences I'm going to illustrate this using the subject of golf.

Here's my brainstormed list:

tee
drive
driver
driving
club
clubhouse
ball(s)
caddy
trolley
green(s)
fairway
bunker
flag
round
hole
iron
birdie
handicap
grip
stance
shank
hole in one

You may be able to think of many more, in which case why not have a go now! write down your extra words and follow along with the example.

As I say, I recommend that you go through this process for every aspect of the Bride and Groom that you can think of - by doing this you will come up with several strong ideas for jokes, and you don't need many.

The next step is to go through the list and write down as many meanings for each word, or phrases, that you can think of that use the word.

Here we go:

tee: golf ball holder, cup of tea, letter T, tee hee
drive: driver: golf club, car-driving, Minnie Driver, "drive a" long way
club: golf club to hit balls with, chocalate biscuit, social club,
golf club: club foot, card suit
clubhouse: 18th hole, clubs live there?
ball(s): golf ball, part of man's wedding tackle, dance, ball of foot,
lotto balls: a load of balls, bawl
caddy: club carrier, tea caddy
trolley: golf trolley, supermarket trolley, off-his-trolley
green(s): golf green, vegetables, ball colour in snooker, traffic light-go
fairway: golf fairway, fare way, fair weigh
bunker: golf bunker, air raid bunker, debunker, history is bunk
flag: golf flag, corner flag, flagpole, flagging (tired)
round: round of golf, come round (visit), come round (from
unconsciousness), circular, spherical,, round of pints, fat
hole: golf hole, dive, a right hole, whole, hole in wallet, polo mint
iron: ironing, cutlery, ion, steel
birdie: dicky bird, watch the birdie
handicap: golf handicap, disability, disadvantage, Andy Capp, handy cap
grip: grip on a golf club, grip on something else, get a grip
stance: stance when taking a shot, position on a subject
hole in one: one shot into the hole from teeing off, a physical hole in
something
shank: to knock the ball way off course, Armitage Shanks

And now we come to the analysis: scan down the list of twenty words and their meanings to see if a joke comes to mind.

What you are looking for is to deceive the wedding speech audience into thinking of one meaning when you actually mean the other.

My ideas follow in joke form - some are weak, but there are a few which are quite passable.

If you have ever done brainstorming at work you will know that at this stage it
is the quantity of ideas that matter! simply write them down,
do not stop to think or evaluate then - this comes later.

If you do this exercise for every area of the Bride and Groom's interests, you will probably be in a position of deciding which jokes not to use, and selecting only a few very good ones.

Clubs: I am sorry that James has decided to throw away his clubs, but
I'm delighted that in Jane he has picked up his hearts.

Driving: James was explaining to Jane at a time when she was learning
about golf, that a tee was something to hold his balls when he
was driving. She said "Gosh, BMW think of everything!"

Tee: he keeps his ball holders in a mug - it's his cup of tee.

Balls: On the fairway one day, Jane said: "James, what's that lump in your pocket?" He said "Don't worry, it's only golf balls." She said: "Is that something like tennis elbow?"

Green: James was thrown out of his first golf club for digging up the
turf and putting it in a flower pot. "What are you doing?" they said. He responded "I'm only potting the green." They said: "You fool! This is golf, not snooker!"

Hole: The eighteenth hole - you should have seen it, it was a right hole

Iron and Trolley: He knows a lot about golf equipment - you should see his 5
iron - it's a Russell Hobbs. And he's ever the radical - he was arrested when he wheeled out his new golf trolley - it was from Sainsbury's.

Handicap: I'm not sure if his handy-cap is his flat cap or his club foot.

Grip: At least all that work on his grip means he can now carry four beer mugs in each hand.

Hole in one: He took his new golf shoes back to the shop. Why? Because he
got a hole in one.

Shank: In the gents in the clubhouse last week, I saw that someone had written above the words Armitage Shanks: "aye, but nowhere
near as bad as James does!"

So I've managed to come up with some form of wit for 11 of the above 20 - odd terms. You can do the same with any subject.

You might even be able to think of more golf jokes from the above double meanings, or maybe even better ones than mine.

By the time you have done this exercise for several of the topics you identified you are sure to have a few humorous quips that closely adapt your speech to the people involved.

I wish you well with it.

I know that if you have got the Master Class Wedding Speech Secrets you will have very good speeches at your disposal already; it can only enrich it further if you add some gems of your own using the methods outlined here, and over the next few months.

Bruno Barton :)


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Creating Original Humour, Lesson One :)

Wedding Speeches are usually humorous (not joke-a-minute!), so how do you create humour specific to the couple and their families?


The next six or so of my blogs will deal with the creation of original humour. It is intended that you will be able to use the tips shared to further enhance your wedding speech with original self-created and personalised humour.

Not every wedding speech is filled with puns and one-liners; many speeches succeed by virtue of their sincerity alone.

However, everyone at a wedding appreciates a little appropriate light relief, which is why you will find many jokes (as well as sincerity) in your Master Class Wedding Speech Secrets. Each of these speeches will work as-is (except for name changes), but there is nothing at all to be lost in having a go at creating your own original humour to personalise your speech a little.

My schedule for forthcoming articles is as follows:

Double meanings (puns), the rule of three, the creation and use of witty anagrams, plus how to use history to enhance your speech, using rhyme and acronyms, using lateral thinking to search for joke ideas and using mind mapping to generate humour.

I'd like to enlarge just a little on these subjects to whet your appetite prior to a fuller treatment later.

a) Double meanings- i.e. a play on words. Here is one example:
He's a light eater - as soon as it gets light, he starts eating.
As you can see, this joke uses two alternative meanings of the word light.

b) The Rule of Three- A series of three statements or revelations; the first and second might not be funny, but the third is, and being in a series of 3 magnifies and intensifies the humour value.

"I said to James once that you couldn't know whether someone was truly your lifetime sweetheart until you had broken wind in front of them, to gauge their reaction. James went ahead and tried it. Jane didn't mind, but her parents were disgusted. And the vicar was appalled… and so was everyone else at the funeral."

OK, perhaps it's not suitable for a wedding speech, but you get the idea :)

c) Anagrams and History- I will show you a source of anagrams on the internet and give you ideas how to use them.

d) Rhyme and Acronyms- I will show you how these can be used to great effect, particularly when directly relevant to the Bride and Groom.

e) Lateral Thinking- A very powerful tool which unlocks the creative potential of the mind, and how to use it to create humorous material.

f) Mind Mapping- Another mind-blowing thinking tool and how it can be used in conjunction with all the above to open up your mind and produce joke ideas.

And that's all for this month

Bruno Barton

:)

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Why Plan My Speech ?

Why Plan Your Speech?
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"In this article I am going to offer a little advice from my years as a professional writer and speaker. But giving advice is often regarded as a bit overbearing."


Oscar Wilde, a proficient and experienced advice giver, said: "I never give a woman advice. In fact one should never give her anything she can't wear in the evening." And now a howler from a child's exam paper: "Socrates was a great Greek teacher. He went around giving people advice. They killed him."

Despite the possible perils of following in Socrates' footsteps, I still feel inclined to throw in my ha'pennyworth.

Why Plan? Some people do ask themselves the question: "Why should I plan my wedding speech?"

But some people don't even consider planning until it's too late. Which group would you rather be in?

You may have heard the saying, "Failing to plan is like planning to fail". A truer word has never been said.

As discussed in my article, "Prepare or Bust", you might feel able to "wing it", or you might feel that planning a speech is easy and quick. I get a staggering number of calls, a week and less before the wedding, from panic stricken speakers who have suddenly realised that they have no idea what to say or how to say it.

Planning a speech is not generally something quick and easy unless you are an expert or have access to one.

When deciding if you are going to plan in advance, consider the following issues:-
People do remember the speeches !!

Even if they don't remember the words used, they will remember if the wedding speeches were good or bad. One very potent reason for planning is that the majority of weddings these days are videoed, and who wants their failures to be immortalised on film?

I am reminded of the Irish wedding where the father of the bride's wallet was stolen at the reception. The mystery was solved when the video was processed: the best man was seen nicking it. Obviously things like this won't happen to any honest and conscientious best man, but there is a lesson there to be learned: your performance may be around to haunt you or to support your self esteem for years to come.

At FineSpeeches.com, we can help you to achieve the latter. Get the right sort of help. You wouldn't take on a plumber to fix your TV, or a mechanic to fit a carpet. So if you need help and advice on making a public speech, it must make sense to turn to a professional public speaker. I have nearly two decades of hands-on and eye-to-eye experience with all sorts of audiences including after dinner speaking and stand up comedy, plus seasoned experience of coaching people to speak effectively.

Planning the wedding speeches should be part of planning the wedding. The average cost of a wedding in the UK is more than £10,000. People plan and budget for every aspect of the wedding: the church, the organ, the reception venue, the food, champagne and flowers. Every aspect, that is, apart from the wedding speeches.

Often completely inexperienced men (and women) are thrown in front of an audience who are hoping against hope to be interested and entertained. Very often though they are bored, unable to hear or, worst of all, acutely embarrassed, perhaps by the speaker's material or perhaps by a speaker humiliating himself by lack of preparation.

Avoid common pitfalls !!

It is a fact that there are a number of pitfalls lying in wait for the wedding speaker, like snakes in the grass, each with their own collection of snakebites.

Mostly they arise from the rattlesnake of lack of knowledge:
Snakebite 1: What must I include?
Snakebite 2: How do I say it?
Snakebite 3: When do I say it?
Snakebite 4: How long should I speak for?
Snakebite 5: What else do I have to do?
Snakebite 6: How formal / informal should I be?

Please visit us at www.FineSpeeches.com for the Master Class Wedding Speech Secrets containing ALL the effective antidotes to these and other snakebites, including those inflicted by the spitting cobra of stage fright.

Of course one of the most deadly snakes is the wriggling, slithering anaconda of speech content.

Among its snakebites are:
Snakebite 7: Is it interesting?
Snakebite 8: Is it snappy?
Snakebite 9: Is it light, without being too frivolous?
Snakebite 10: Is it clean?
Snakebite 11: Is it appropriate?

To avoid a severe case of venom, why not double protect and double guarantee yourself with our Master Class Wedding Speech Secrets or if you just want some free help and guidelines, visit us anyway :) http://www.FineWeddingSpeeches.com/

It is a good idea for you to have a concerted dredge through your experiences of the happy couple, their friends and families, for appropriate material and to edit these in to your other material. But if time is really not available, all is not lost.

The Master Class Wedding Speech Secrets will provide five professionally crafted speeches for you, any of which can be used as-is (except for insertion of the appropriate names). Along with our ALL of my step by steps guides to planning, preparing and delivery your speech with excellence !

Whichever route you take to prepare and practise for your wedding speech experience, I wish you huge success and enjoyment on the day.

Bruno Barton :)


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Prepare Or Bust ? Your Choice

Wedding Speeches - Prepare or Bust!

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There are many different kinds of wedding speaker, including....

-The Rolls Royce, who is well oiled, almost inaudible and goes on for a long, long time....
-The pogo stick, who jumps along in fits and starts and sometimes collapses in a nervously gibbering heap !!

-The fellow who thinks he can "wing it ", and the guy who prepares for six months beforehand.

Whatever your background and your previous experience at public speaking, we at Fine Wedding Speeches can help you to excel on the day.

"It's my Wedding Speech - I'll "wing" it if I want to!"

I'm going to start off by talking about "winging it". Some people are naturally funny, particularly down the pub after a few beers. They think that giving a wedding speech is not far removed from wisecracking in their local bar: "I'll just sink a few beers and see what comes out."

Consider this: when you wing it, will you soar majestically over the mountains like a golden eagle … or will you tear around headless chicken-like in ever decreasing circles before imploding spectacularly in your beer? …

Or will you simply be a limp and totally flightless turkey?

I have known many people attempt the "winging" method. How many have I known succeed? Zero, zilch, zip all. This is an approach which always fails, unless you really are an experienced stand-up comedian - and even they "die" on stage sometimes.

You've probably seen this scenario yourself more than once: the speaker stands, looks up and in the cold light of day sees hundreds of pairs of eyes looking at him; his usual impromptu wit wings out of his head; he forgets the groom's name, his daughter's name; he starts to stammer; his knees knock and the contents of his bowels indicate their imminent desire to descend ankle-wards.

Completely humiliated, the speaker sits down, bows his head in shame and makes as sharp an exit as he can to drown his sorrows, his reputation as a wit shattered forever. But the worst thing for the speaker is that, more likely than not, his inglorious moment will probably be immortalised on videotape, remembered forever as The Wedding When Wisecracker Winged it.

Wedding Speeches Need Preparation !!

To deliver a speech of any sort requires some degree of preparation.

Mark Twain, an extremely gifted speaker, said, "It normally takes three weeks for me to prepare a short impromptu speech."

Most wedding speakers will not have the advantage of being extremely gifted, nor of being extremely experienced public speakers. Nevertheless nearly everyone can make a competent job of their wedding speech if they have the right help and follow an effective method of preparation.

Consider politicians, people who need to appear competent when addressing the public. Do they stand up and launch into something off the top of their heads? No, they have prepared an idea of the broad issues they want to talk about, the subjects they will cover, and the words they will use.

These professional public speakers frequently have an auto-cue, a lectern or other form of paper stand. They are not "speaking", they are "reading aloud". Admittedly they are doing it with animation and energy to involve and impress the audience. In many cases they have not written the speech itself, but have used a "Ghost Writer".

These practices are considered "tools of the trade" and successful public speakers of all kinds expect to use them. You can too!

The speaker who prepares his wise, witty and sincere words well in advance is the speaker who will "wow" them on the day; not only because his words will be well-chosen, but because he will have had time to practice his speech as many times as he feels necessary - in front of his wife, his mum, and maybe even bits of it in front of his mates down the pub.

Wedding Speeches Need Practice Remember the 5 P's: Perfect Practice Prevents Poor Performance.

By practicing in front of a sympathetic and constructively critical audience, you will be able to select, discard and hone jokes and anecdotes and sincerity so that you will become very confident of your material on the day.

Fear Factor? - Oh yes, been there, done that - coped anyway. Time and again, surveys have shown that people are generally more scared of public speaking than dying. You may be one of the many millions of people who are terrified at the prospect of being in front of an audience.

Believe me, I can empathise with you - up to 1987 I was one of the sweating, knee-knocking hordes myself, preparing to be Best Man for my brother Nick. Up to that point in my life I hadn't been able to bring myself to say anything when there was more than one person present, even down to cracking a joke down the pub.

If, like many people, you feel a great personal fear about your commitment to giving this wedding speech, visit your public library (or Amazon?) and read Susan Jeffers' amazing little book, "Feel the Fear And Do It Anyway". In 200 pages she will show you ways to turn your fears into confident action.

So if fear is your biggest obstacle to giving a successful wedding speech, learn how to use it as a tool to spur you to success.

What transformed me? I joined a public speaking club - International Training in Communication (ITC).

At my first meeting I was asked - non obligatorily - if I would like to stand up and improvise for two minutes on the subject of pets. Like a condemned man I slowly walked to the lectern. As a family we had hamsters, budgies, goldfish, tortoises, cats and dogs. Could I remember their names, their foibles, their lives, their deaths? No. Terrified, the sweat dripped down my face like Chinese water torture. It was, for me, like going over a trench at the battle of the Somme. But, however haltingly, I did it. And I returned the next week, and the next.

Six months later at Nick's wedding, people weren't just congratulating me on my speech, they were asking where they could book me! And now, people do book me - I'm a speech coach, an after-dinner speaker, a storyteller, and I've even had success as a stand up comedian.

How much better would it be for you if your Somme experience occurred months before the wedding rather than at the wedding itself? Why not contact a speakers club?

Three websites follow:
The Association of Speaker's Clubs:

www.the-asc.org.uk
Toastmasters International: www.toastmasters.org
ITC: www.itcgb.org.uk and www.itcintl.com

If you feel that such full and in-depth preparation is not for you, or if you don't feel inclined to train yourself up to near-professional standard for just one event, don't despair. At Fine Wedding Speeches you will find plenty of guidance, tips and advice which, if followed diligently, will ensure success on the day.

Now, having found out how to make your wedding speech, if you want the ultimate in proven, step by step, surefire sucess with your wedding speech then the Master Class Wedding Speech Secrets is for you !!

Get It Now At !! www.FineWeddingSpeeches.com

Wishing you fun preparing your speech and massive success on the day,

Bruno Barton..:)

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